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There is no question that people face challenges in life. That’s part of being human. The biggest thing that defines us is how we respond to those challenges though.
We all know people who had things happen to them and they just never got back on their feet. Then you can think of people who every time they get knocked down, they’re right back up swinging right away.
I’m going to help you become that second person with this post. When you need it the most, here are 21 ways to get your life together and figure it all out. These different methods aren’t really in a particular order but I did try to list it in an order that I would tackle each step one-by-one.
Motivation comes in many different forms. Some people like external motivation and others like internal. Some people want to reward themselves by saying “If I achieve this goal, I’ll go on this vacation or buy this object.”
Other people find motivation from thinking about bettering their family or their own lives. Maybe making their parents proud or proving someone wrong.
Maybe the best one of them all is finding people around you that help motivate you and you motivate them. Finding a support group to help you achieve your goals could be a way to motivate you.
Most of us know the things that motivate us. For me, I have my own internal reasons to push myself and then when I need an extra boost I just throw on a video on Youtube or write down my goals and then I’m ready to go.
If you don’t know what motivates you yet, try some of these here and see which one sticks. Whichever one does, learn to use that to your advantage when you need a push.
You might say out loud that you like stuff being messy but you and I both know deep down that when your workspace, room, house, etc. is clean, your life just feels cleaner as well. The best part is this actually doesn’t take that long to see a big difference.
Clean out your closet, clean off your workspace, clean out your car, and you’ll feel a difference.
Even fixing your bed can be a big stride for some people every morning.
Once your surroundings are organized, start getting organized with other things. Start writing things down instead of being lazy, make sure that everything has a place that it goes and spend some time every week just keeping track of this and decluttering whatever is needed from the week.
One of the biggest reasons we procrastinate on building a better life for ourselves is because we psyche ourselves out and think it’s so complex. It’s really not.
Just like everything else, the 80/20 rule applies here. 80% of the things we need to turn our life around is very basic. You wouldn’t focus on making a creme brulee when you can’t even make a grilled cheese.
So why are there people out there who are trying things like keto when they can’t even control their eating enough to lose weight?
People who focus on putting money in the stock market when they have thousands in credit card debt?
Or people who are searching so hard to find love but they haven’t focused on themselves enough to be loved in the first place?
Almost everything in life can be built like a pyramid but that means that you need to build the foundations first. Find out what the basics are to turn your life around before you go doing the complex things that probably won’t even amount to any change.
It sounds a little too easy but our life is made up of what we do throughout the day. If you come home from your crappy job everyday and sit down and eat twinkies and drink beer for four hours while watching Netflix, then I can promise what your life looks like.
But if you do things everyday that help make your life better, then (obviously) your life will be better.
Now, if you want some help, I’ll tell you a little about my routines. I have two seperate routines (or at least this is how I think of them). I have work routines and personal life routines. My personal ones consist of making my bed every morning and the gym on certain days around 9 AM. Also I do laundry twice a week every week and every other day I clean something different like the bathroom or my closet or desk.
For my work, I basically do all my different business things every day but each day also has a focus as well. Mondays are always my analytics days where I go in and look at how I can grow through statistics. Fridays are always the day where I look through the revenue for the week and try to plan the next weeks.
Sundays are usually my days where I plan my social media, blog posts, emails, and anything else. This usually only takes a couple hours so then I rest a little more on Sundays.
There is always going to be controversy over which goals are most beneficial but in my experience it’s best to set all three. If you only set short term goals, you’ll never be able to realize a bigger picture for yourself and your small goals.
If you only set goals for 10 years from now then you’ll never be able to make a plan to reach those goals starting today.
I like setting goals for the day/week, for 90 days from now, and a year or more.
The day/week ones are pretty easy. Get a blog post done today, finish Facebook ads for a client, or create two new videos for Youtube. The long-term goals are kind of a way to gauge how things are going for your business or life depending on what you want.
Something like lose 20 pounds in a year or make X amount in a side hustle could be a good year goal.
90 day goals are actually my favorites. There is some science that 90 days is the perfect amount so you can plan out an actual goal to reach while being able to plan almost daily for them.
For example, imagine you’re starting a Youtube channel. You can set short term goals like making one video a week or you can do long-term like getting 200,000 subscribers in one year but that’s not really enough. 200k subscribers won’t come just by making one video a week and doing nothing else.
But if you say “in the next 90 days, I’m going to go from zero to 5,000 subscribers by making one video a week, promoting it to my social media, and commenting on reddit.” Then you have an actual plan instead of just goals or tasks to do.
While you’re setting these goals and plans you need to be able to keep track of what works and doesn’t work. If you try a new thing for your work or business, write down what happens with it.
I do analytics every week on the business things I do over the week along with track everything I do finance wise for my personal life and businesses.
This way I can track what works and what doesn’t, where I can improve and where I can be a little more lenient.
On the side of my spreadsheets I also have a spot where I can put other notes. Maybe more things to experiment or how tome things changed depending on certain days or decisions.
Whether you’re 13 or 43 reading this, we all could probably focus a little bit more on saving money. One of the fastest ways to get your life together is by being in a position to call your own shots when needed.
When you have your money saved up and the freedom that comes with that, you can change careers if you want to, start a business if that’s what you want, take a break, go on vacation, and most importantly, you can handle an emergency when it WILL come up.
Most people say they want to be rich, but really we just want to have enough financial independence to take care of the people around us and never be worried about something bad happening to us.
90% of people reading this probably think they don’t do this but I promise you, 90% of us think we will be happier once we have those new shoes or buy that new game.
The truth is that these things give temporary happiness. It happens every time. You buy that new game, play it for a couple weeks, then you’re bored and have to think of the next thing to waste money on to make you happy.
Obviously this is a more extreme example but it’s the same thing when it comes to drug addicts. If you ever see one down your street or in a city, you can always tell from their mood how much they have left. If they’re smiling and happy, they either just took it or have a lot more. But if they’re angry, you know what that means.
Real happiness only comes from enjoying your everyday life with the people you want surrounding you and the ability to be free to do what you want. That’s real happiness to me.
I don’t know about you but I have never met one person who constantly complains 24/7 and is anywhere close to being successful in life. It just doesn’t happen.
Some of our cultures just thrive on complaining now and it honestly is one of the main things holding society back because people complain instead of doing something about it. It would be okay if people complain for a couple minutes and then do something about it. But those complaints turn into excuses and then those excuses turn into the reasons why no action is taken.
This is exactly why successful people don’t complain when their project doesn’t go exactly as planned or when a competitor does something to screw them over. They adapt and they get better to solve their problems. Adopt this mindset if you feel like maybe you complain a little too much.
This one can technically be put together with the last method but this is probably one of the biggest things I preach so I wanted it to be its own.
One of the things that bothers me the most is when people get emotional (mad, angry, upset) over things that they can’t control. We all know someone like this.
They get pissed off if they have plans but it starts raining. The guy in front of them doesn’t put on their blinker and even though they safely merge, angry guy flicks him off and rides him for two miles just to make himself feel better.
This is foreshadowing another step later but I steer clear from these people. 90% of your life is literally things out of your control. The 10% is how you respond to it which dictates your life. All you can do is worry about the stuff that you can handle and put in the work that way. If you sit complaining about 90% of your day, then you won’t have time to make any part of it good.
I come up with new things I want to do all the time and the first thing I do is find some way to learn a little part of it to see if I want to continue.
Sounds like a cliche but there is so many ways to learn things now that you don’t really have an excuse to say I don’t know how to do that.
You always have Google and YouTube at your disposal, books on every single topic you can possibly imagine, and most of the time now there are experts that are literally selling their knowledge to solve your exact problem you have. I’ve even found Reddit to be a great place to learn lots of things.
You’ll never hear me say “I’ll never be able to do that” because I’m always looking for new things to learn. I actually have a spreadsheet on things I want to learn eventually once I have the time and how I’ll be able to learn them.
Whether turning your life around means getting a job, break an addiction, start a business, or just cheer yourself up, you’ll always need something to help you reach success.
For my personal life, I always need my whiteboards to help me keep track of things so I can plan out my week, where I’m going, what I’m doing and even what I’m eating.
For business, I’ll always need tools like Clickfunnels to help me out. Every business I’m in stems from Clickfunnels in some way and I’m not saying you have to use this tool but find one that works for you.
Speaking of eating, one of the fastest ways to change your life around is taking better care of your body. Of course, you feel healthier but it also makes you feel better from an energy standpoint.
If you’re eating crap, you’re going to feel like crap. If you’re not staying active your energy will just drop down completely.
If you really do feel like you need help in both of these categories, tackle one at a time and take it slow. Change one meal a day into a healthy one and maybe do a little bit of a home workout. Then change up more of the diet and get some weights for the house.
You don’t have to turn into The Arnold and go full Keto but swallowing a pizza whole negatively affects your life way more than you think.
This one is going to be different for every person reading this but it’s also going to be necessary for every person as well. We all have something that we NEED to cut out of our lives that is keeping us from being who we want to be.
It could be a toxic friend, maybe your own vice like drinking, maybe you have a parent that’s pressuring you to do something you don’t want to do, or maybe you just go through lazy times where you just want to sit and watch Netflix for eight hours every day.
Each one of those situations has their own solution (obviously you can’t cut your Mom out of your life) but in order to start turning your life around, you might have to handle some of these things and figure out a solution.
Figure out the problem you may have and then come up with a solution to solve it.
One of my biggest pet peeves is people who don’t feel responsible when they say they’re going to do something. Only promise to do things that you are 100% sure you can finish and always make sure to make time for your obligations.
Even if something terrible comes up and you have to back out, don’t come up with some lie to get out of it. Just be honest with the person.
I’ve dealt with people that make these kinds of promises all the time and then they come up with a lie and I don’t get angry. I just tell them something like thank you and then when they come back to me asking for another chance, I always keep that first encounter in the back of my mind.
You don’t want to set the impression that you aren’t responsible with anyone. It’s not a good look.
Some people spend their whole life chasing these ambitions with nothing to fall back on when they need a breather. I’ve gone through this as well. You see these motivational videos that are saying “just focus on your goals and forget everything else.”
You might be a special type of person that can do this 14 hours a day for months at a time but for me, I need some breaks. I write 1500 words then I sit and watch a show or I have a couple agency meetings and then I watch a football game to unwind.
Just ask yourself, what do you like to do? I’m not giving some speech to follow your passion and life will be handed to you. But even if that answer can be a little unproductive like binge watch TV or in my case, video games, it’s good to be unproductive every once in a while.
If you were productive 24/7, that actually wouldn’t mean your productive anymore because you would just be working at the same pace every day which is the opposite of having a productive period.
Now just like I do in every other post, I’m going to do a complete reverse on the last step. I just told you to spend more time on your passions but I’m also going to tell you to not always give in to what you want to do.
Delay your gratification a while and watch yourself grow. I could just as easily write one of these sections then go and take a break but I would never get these posts out then. Somebody could do five minutes on a treadmill then go eat whatever they want but it wouldn’t matter.
A perfect example of this is saving money. If you want to save up to move out or maybe put some away for retirement, that means you can’t always get those nice shoes or that new computer part you really want.
Doing what you love is important but sacrificing what you love to do what you need to is a big part of success in life.
Everybody fails. Just get that through your head right now. This goes back to the complaining and out of your control tactics I talked about earlier. There are going to be two reasons that you fail.
This is going to seem harsh but 90% of the time that you fail, it is truly your fault. Our mind will try to make up excuses for what happened but you could have prepared better and you could have executed better. Just be honest.
The reason why honesty is so important is because these failures is what allows us to truly learn. I’ve learned more from my own failures than any course, video, or book has ever taught me.
Then, 10% of the time something will go wrong that you couldn’t control. This brings us back to what I said earlier. You can’t dwell on that. Just figure out your next plan of action and move on. No reason to worry about it any more.
This is probably the toughest one for me on this list and I’m still working on it to this day. I’ve always been a 100% do it myself kind of person because I was just taught as a kid that’s what I have to do to get things done right.
If you actually think about it, school’s enforced it in us to not ask for help from teachers or from other students in times of need, like tests and projects, but that’s a different topic.
But I’m learning how to ask for help when I need it and you should too.
You’ll be surprised how many people actually like helping others and then you’ll start feeling even more surprised on how much you want to help out others in return.
I’ve learned that doing this doesn’t mean your weak or that your incapable. Sometimes it just gives you the push you need to get it done or make a change.
Some people just assume they are leaders while everyone else just assumes they are followers and this just isn’t true. Everyone is able to be a leader at any time. You honestly just have to be comfortable enough in the situation and have the confidence to figure it out.
Even if you feel like a follower, there is at least one situation where you know you could be looked at as a leader. This is important because you can figure out what is so different about that situation and transfer those thoughts over to others.
Once you become a leader and you start thinking like a leader, your outlook on different situations change and your confidence will change as well.
On your journey to get your life together, you might try some of these tactics but this one you need to keep in the back of your mind at all times.
Your life isn’t going to dramatically change right after you decide to change it. You can’t expect it to either.
What you did three months ago or what you do three months from now doesn’t matter. All you should focus on is things that you can do today to get your life back on track.
Figure out the work you need to do, the things you need to learn, and the personal tasks you need to take care of to really get your life back together.
Everybody's different. There is no one thing anyone can tell you that's going to completely change your life around.
In my opinion though, if you see a couple things on this list that you think could work for you, try them from the top to the bottom and see how it goes for you.
Let me know if you try any of them! Also let me know if you have any other ideas.
Let me know in the comments down below.
And if you know someone that could benefit from this post, please share it with them because it will probably help them out. Thank you!
Do you ever wonder how certain people can get so far ahead in their life and others (maybe yourself) can't even get the simplest of tasks done?
The most successful people didn't achieve so much by behaving like everyone else. They earned greatness by finding simple everyday rituals that can put them on the fast track to success.
You hear the expression "We all have the same 24 hours." And it's true.
Jeff Bezos, Mark Cuban, and Oprah all have the same amount of time we have. They just know how to flourish daily, and that's what you'll learn here.
The way you progress to the highest success in life is by taking care of yourself, both mentally and physically.
I've put together 80 rituals that you can do to make your life better in things like mindset, and productivity all the way to your job and health. So let's get started…
I set this up in different categories: mindset, productivity, stress, happiness, business/job, and health. Some rituals could be found in things like mindset and happiness because they can be used for both.
A couple might also seem the same but have different overall routes within the ritual. Some of these are for the beginner trying to turn your life around, and some are more advanced and here to challenge yourself. Enjoy 🙂
This is ultimately what All Day Progress is all about. The biggest advantage productive people have is that every day, they are getting 1% smarter, faster, and healthier than they were before.
It doesn’t make a big difference overnight, but this starts compounding very quickly. This helps you approach life from a fresh perspective. This is honestly how I got into travel hacking.
Every morning, you wake up, and you're over-flooded with thoughts on what happened yesterday, your dreams from last night, and what you need to do today. Before you even get up to check your notifications, spend 10 minutes quietly thinking/meditating, and then another 10 minutes deliberately visualizing your day.
This is more of a challenge than anything else, and it's one that will pay off if you can do it. You probably have a job or a business, and you wake up at say 8 AM and then head straight to work.
This gives you no time to get any self-improvement done before work. You say you'll work on yourself later tonight, but you're tired by then and say "I'll just do it tomorrow." Then the cycle repeats and nothing gets done. Try this once, see how easy it is and it might become a permanent change.
This seems silly but listen to this. Making your bed allows you to finish a task already within the first 15 minutes of waking up. Your brain will then already believe that you are being productive and will make for a more positive and effective day.
Most of us do something like this already, but this can be something like taking a shower, driving to work, or making your bed. Something that you have to do daily and doesn’t require much thinking.
This allows you to openly be creative in your mind and let it roam freely. Some of my best ideas happen while driving to do errands.
You already have some ideas for options from the suggestions above. Once you make it a habit, you can turn it monotonous and be productive while also letting your mind wander to important things. Routine's can improve health and well-being.
This obviously takes some time, but this is really important because you cannot improve your habits if you’re not tracking them.
Just like a personal trainer tells you to write down the weight you’re using (and no one does it), I’m telling you to write down the routine you have. We’ll see who does it.
When you’re on your way to work or anywhere social, just try saying a simple “Hi” to your co-workers or strangers.
With everything that is running through our head with our schedule for the day and our work meetings, saying hello to someone can give us just the dopamine boost we need. This actually works even better for introverts.
Society and the media are conditioning us to believe that we should be entirely independent and not seek for guidance. Another contributor for this is the public school system.
“Work on this yourself, don’t get any help from your peers, and you pass or fail on your own.” Everything that’s ever been great has come from a team and not a single effort, from Apple all the way back to the Egyptian Pyramids.
Some of you scoff at this because you think you don’t have time for it. If you’re a Tai Lopez fan, you might be reading more than this. This goes back to the getting better each day.
You don’t have to read books on physics or psychology daily to grow. You can find articles online or blog posts like this one. If you have trouble for an hour, try the next tip.
Not only does this allow you to work on your self-development, but this also allows you to step away from all the stressful things that have happened in your day already.
Think about it; you’ve probably been working for four hours or more by now. Your boss could be expecting something, or your client is rushing you, and you are starting to get overwhelmed. Stepping into a book allows you to disengage from the world around you and just let you focus on eating and learning.
For example, let’s say you live in the technology space and you just learn, see, hear about Tech all day long.
Try reading something on Health, or fashion, or sports. Just to throw a curve ball in there and then think about what you read. It allows you to challenge your thinking.
This is one of the first things I recommend to anyone. You’re in the gym or your car on an hour drive and let me guess what you’re doing. You’re blaring Drake or The Chainsmokers or Bieber (I know some of you secretly work out to him, don’t lie.).
That is valuable personal development time, and once you make that switch from music to self-improvement time, you start to notice all the time you missed.
We all know the left-brain vs. right-brain theory. No matter what side you’re on, it benefits you to work on both. If you’re more logical and analytical, throw in some creative in your day. If you are more expressive, focus on thinking about numbers and analyzing things to the core.
This is something that every entrepreneur should be doing, and everyone else could be doing to get an advantage. I have many different ways to make money and every morning (one of my monotonous things) is I check the day before in how much those income streams made me.
How would this work for you? Say you’re a writer, track how many words you wrote yesterday. A student could do how much they studied, and an athlete could do how long they trained. You’ll find where you should be paying attention as well as what’s working well so far.
On a completely opposite note of that last one, you need to have some time to enjoy yourself. Even if it’s one game on your phone for 15 minutes or a dinner with friends once a week, you have to set aside time for you to enjoy something besides work.
You’re going to see meditation in a couple of different categories here because it is that beneficial. Anyone who sees tranquil act thinks it’s a waste of time but no one who tries it more than twice says anything bad about it. It’s daunting to learn, but once you’ve got the hang of it, it has many beneficial uses.
The problem with most Millennials is we have everything going on around us. Then midnight to two in the morning hits, we drop our phone or turn off the TV, and we just expect to be able to sleep.
It doesn’t work like that for everyone. Turn your phone on Do Not Disturb thirty minutes before you want to sleep and take a walk or try the meditation mentioned above to recharge your mind instead of building up stress.
Every time you win or achieve anything, your brain lets off a little bit of dopamine telling you that you feel good. That’s why you set yourself up for wins throughout the day. Fixing your bed is one of them. Make small tasks like getting to work 15 minutes early or putting an extra gift in your lunch for later.
Curiosity has been the biggest factor to business for the last 40 years. Think about it if Steve Jobs and Bill Gates weren’t curious, you could be reading this in a magazine. Here’s a top trick to think about this. Instead of criticizing and dismissing something, be curious about why and how it works.
At some point or another, you just need a break. 95% of people who do self-improvement try to push through it. Rather than pushing through it, allow it to happen. There will be highs and lows when it comes to motivation. You’d rather be rested for when you’re actually motivated than push yourself when you’re not.
This is one of the best things I have learned from Ramit Sethi. Let’s do an exercise. When something goes wrong in your head, what do you do? Most people overeat, drink obsessively, resort to shopping, or another bad habit.
Instead, acknowledge what you are thinking and realize your discomfort. Practice when you want that bad habit to think, “is this going to make me stronger or smarter?” If it won’t, change directions.
Now for some people, you thrive in loneliness. I am a 90% introvert and have no problem having alone time for a while. But just like introverts have to learn how to thrive at social gatherings, extroverts should learn to embrace quiet time.
If you have your sight set on success, you're going to run into times when you feel lonely, and you'll find ways to help you battle through it.
Almost everything you read will tell you that to do your creative work right when you wake up. And that works for a lot of people but not everyone. This especially works if you’re lazy. Lazy people will find the best ways to get their tasks done when they’re tired.
The brain is programmed for you not to do this. If you are used to doing ten push-ups for example, and you tell yourself to do 20, your brain's first reaction is "I can't do it."
This comes from the caveman days when our most important aspect of life is survival. But now it's been proven that nothing significant happens outside of your comfort zone. If you don't scare yourself, you won't grow.
90% of people just wake up and head to work. They don’t put any time into themselves. Most of the tasks that take you all day to do, someone else is waking up at five, and finishing all the tasks before their job. Set yourself up to have a full self-improvement session before you go to work.
Maybe you can’t wake up at five in the morning. It’s tough for night owls to do that because they go to bed at two. So, try this instead.
Besides you lone wolves who live alone, your spouse, kids, and/or roommates can make a lot of noise when you’re trying to gain momentum on the day. Trying this will put you in a great mood that you need to tackle the rest of the day.
Everybody knows they should be doing this, but few do. Set up an app to track, use a paper and pen, Google Calendar, or a 10x Journal from Grant Cardone.
I suggest having 3-5 tasks on your list a day spread out, depending on your work and lifestyle. You’ll always have more important tasks, but not everyone does this.
They’ll look at their to-do list in the morning and usually choose the quickest one because they want to start knocking off tasks. But this means the more important tasks get pushed back.
Building off the prioritization, you then decide to take the most important tasks first. This doesn’t mean the toughest or the longest; it means the ones that will get you to your goals the fastest. Say your number one priority is to raise your income.
You have sales calls, Spanish lessons, and the gym on your list. It’s noon and you want to start doing your tasks. Most people will see Spanish lesson and say “that’s easy, let’s do that.” Instead, do the sales calls because it’s more of a priority.
You might already write down a task list, but you don’t know which should be most important to you or what to do first. Write down 2-4 problems you had going into that day, and this might help you find your highest priority as well as maybe find new tasks that you can do for the day.
Your most important task should be done in the time when you can lock-in on what you need. I like to call this my “Wired-In Time” that I stole from the movie The Social Network about Facebook.
I have a set amount of time where I don’t answer my phone, I don’t have anything else going on besides that one duty, and you would be surprised how fast you can get it done without distractions.
“Emails in your inbox are just a list of other people’s agendas for your time” – Brendon Burchard. Don’t fall into this trap. The average worker spends 13 hours or 28% of their work week reading emails, and I used to be worse.
Scan your emails for what’s important in the morning and then make time for the rest later in the day when you’ve already finished your tasks.
Here is a step up from the last one if you are having trouble. I have four different email addresses and only one of them do I use for my most important things. So I know anything that comes into that is a priority.
Things like signing up for Twitter or a coupon for a restaurant go on a different email. I get 250+ emails a day, and this helps me tremendously.
In Ritual 11, I talked about how you have that mid-part of the day where you sometimes feel like you hit a wall. This is the perfect time to check your to-do list.
Cross off/Mark what you have completed and lay out the rest of your day. If you don’t, you could risk drifting onto social media or your emails and lose sight of your bigger tasks for the day.
If you’re like me, you listen to a lot of podcasts or watch a lot of videos on YouTube. This could take up a lot of time even if it’s productive. Speed it up by going up to 1.5x Speed. I’ve never seen a difference in the quality of the sound or video, and it can cut down many things significantly. I do this with a lot of my Ted Talks.
Most people can wake up, know what they must do that day, schedule it out and start their day. I can’t do that. When I wake up, I honestly can’t remember what month we’re in let alone the things from yesterday.
So, what I do is the night before I write on Google Calendar everything I want to do the next day. Then once I wake up, I schedule it out to make it work for me.
Most people have either productive mornings and lazy nights or vice versa. Adopt the mindset of separating them in your head.
If you’re up for 16 hours on average a day, the first eight hours and the second eight hours are completely different. Then have morning goals, and evening goals so you don’t get side-tracked.
I mentioned before how important it is to have a routine in your day. A routine can help you get things done when your mind is jittery and also help pull yourself together when you have your rough days.
A couple of my habits from my routine include brushing my teeth, fixing my bed, working on spreadsheets and setting my schedule for the day.
Another curveball. If you read up to this point, I mentioned that I do super concentrated work and then just other tasks. Sometimes when you’re doing the smaller to-dos, you’ll get a bright idea and need to take action.
For example, you scheduled out to clean your house for two hours on a Wednesday and right when you started you came up with an idea that can help your business. Do not be ashamed to leave the cleaning and go with your idea. Cleaning can wait.
There are two types of people in this world. People who know they shouldn't multitask and people who think they can multitask but really can't. I used to be someone who believed I could do it.
Then I just tried one time to just stick with one task at a time, and I never went back. You might be able to accomplish two tasks at once but the energy to switch from one to the other is what drains you.
Studies have shown you actually shouldn't go around announcing your goals and dreams to people. It actually releases chemicals in your brain that has the same significance as if you actually achieved the task.
But you should have 1-3 buddies who keep you on track, and you do the same to them. Just someone to make sure you're doing things right and light a fire under your ass when you need to step it up.
It’s nine at night, and you usually go to sleep around midnight. Everything you wanted to achieve is done, and you already handled everything you can think of.
What’s next? You can binge watch three hours of Netflix if you want. Nothing wrong with that. But if you have momentum already, you should try working on some to-do’s you planned for tomorrow already.
We all have nightmares (even really manly guys who don’t want to admit it), so use this exercise, so it doesn’t hinder the rest of your day. Whatever you didn’t like about your dream, write a better outcome to it on paper.
If you’re not a writer when you wake up, draw a picture or even visualize it in your imagination. Changing the outcome to something more favorable makes the rest of your day more peaceful.
Besides the health aspect, long walks can help so many points of your day right when you wake up. It clears your mind from the day before, allows you to think freely about what is ahead of you and even sets you up for our next step as well.
Studies have found that people who spend more time engaging in outdoor activities have a greater overall psychological and physical well-being. So while you are out on your walk, or during your lunch break, just stop and enjoy what is around you.
On the weekends, try going for a bike ride or some outside activity and who knows, maybe you’ll find a new hobby.
Almost everyone believes that they can’t keep plants alive, but that’s because most have never tried it. If you want to learn responsibility real quick, just make it part of your morning routine to mist a plant for three minutes. Teaches you responsibility and connects you with nature at the same time.
This is obviously a step up from our last ritual of a plant because pets require so much more attention. But I don’t think anyone will argue that having one or two pets can easily raise the happiness of an average household.
Nothing soothes you better after a long day at work than coming home to your loved one who just wants to say hi.
If you don’t think you have the time to adopt a pet, you can always spend time with all types of animals. Whether you visit a petting zoo near you or take a trip to a nice animal shelter, interaction with animals has how to reduce blood pressure and help you relax. If you can’t do habit 50 or 51, try doing this once a month.
Inspiration is everywhere. Whether you're an entrepreneur, an employee, a techie or a health nut, you'll constantly think of ways to make yourself better throughout the day.
While you're on a walk or driving to work, you'll think of something great, and then an hour later, you won't be able to remember. Use an actual notebook or your notepad on your phone. Just make sure you don't do it in the middle of your drive.
There has been a rise in this because adults are starting to realize the therapeutic value it can give. For you creatives out there, this ritual works both sides of your brain and allows you to know your feeling and have a certain sense of relaxation.
Everyone has those days where they just want to fly away to Neverland and become a kid. Getting silly allows you just to take a breath and find some happiness.
Dance around or go for a swim. You know what Simon Cowell does? He climbs a tree daily. Now imagine him doing that!
If you can, it’s a perfect time to play some guitar or another instrument. If you’re like me and don’t have a musical bone in your body, just turn on your favorite upbeat songs and zone out. Perfect for the end of the day or when you need that quick pick-me-up.
Many creatives like music but many also like reading up with a great book and just sink into a different world. One of the best ways to quiet your mind by opening it up to another.
Right before bed, nothing will give you more happiness than affection from a loved one. A significant other or kid is perfect for this. You can also bring back that pet I mentioned earlier.
Throughout your day, you find those times when you just want to give up for the day. When this happens, it’s good to have a secret way to pick up your mood.
Having a favorite playlist on Spotify, watching a quick YouTube series, or reading your favorite blog is a perfect way to be a pickup in your day.
40% of people are expected to be night owls or people who don’t sleep until late at night (early in the morning). Millennials are estimated to be even more, and I am one of them.
I work ten times better after midnight than within the first couple hours of waking. Obama is another famous person who was big on this. He did most of his catching up after night and said it was his favorite part of the day.
If this sounds like you, do not fight it trying to be something society says you should be. I now just focus on doing most of my work later in the day.
Philanthropy is a big way to bring some happiness to your life. The power of giving is real and doesn’t just have to be the Bill Gates or Warren Buffets that do it. Giving away your time to a local charity or volunteering is a great way to give yourself a more fulfilling life.
There is something called the law of 33%. 33% of the time you spend should be with people where you want to be, 33% should be with your peers, and 33% should be with the people you can mentor.
Doing this gives you a sense of accomplishment as well as the confidence to reach for your own goals. Tai Lopez, who is a big alpha male himself, was the one who brought me on to this law.
I mentioned meditation earlier and promised it would be back. Meditation is that kind of ritual that seems intimidating to start, but it’s actually not as black and white as you think. Many things can be classified as meditation.
The first best thing that can help you in a time of stress is human interaction. Real interaction, not on social media or texting. Calling someone before or after work or just when you need that friendly face can make you feel connected, and laugh about your day.
Taking "Phone a friend" to the next level. Set up with a friend to take a walk together. This could be a family member or significant other, or it can be your accountability buddy. You get the same interactions as calling someone but even more because it's in person.
Just like everyone should have times they talk to important friends, you should also have some alone time. Go into a quiet space, put some slow music, and just take some time for yourself. You can do some work at this point or something you enjoy to relieve stress.
This could be one of the most important here. As a society, we are starting to think that to be extra productive you must only go off three hours of sleep and that’s simply not true. Some people require six, some seven and most eight hours. Find out your best time frame and always make sure you have enough time for it.
This might seem tough for some of us, but it really does play a factor in how we sleep at night. Electronics like TVs, computers, and even cell phones transmit signals throughout the night, and even though we don’t hear it, the exposure makes it difficult to have a good night’s sleep.
Anyone who keeps up with self-development knows consistency is the key. Same comes with your rest. When you go to sleep at 11 on certain days of the week and 3 in the morning on weekends, your brain can’t keep up.
It doesn’t know when to shut down and actually makes it harder to sleep for you. Simple trick: find a time to set an alarm clock to go to bed. This works best for you night workers or even you Netflix watchers and video-game bingers.
This is probably one of the most simple and elementary things, but I’ve never heard anyone say this before I found it. Most of us have the default sound for your alarm clock on your phone or on your clock you bought.
It sounds like a fire alarm or air horn. This makes your brain jump up which is good for some, but it could set you off in a bad mood. Try changing it to a bell chime or birds chirping. A more peaceful sound to wake up to means a more peaceful morning and day.
Whether you own a business or have a boss, you have responsibilities at the workplace. The higher up you are, the more power you have.
Jack Dorsey (owning both Twitter and Square) is the best at this. Dorsey does 16-20 hours a day and splits them evenly between his two companies.
On every day of the week, he has a specific responsibility and makes sure he handles it for that day. Then next week, it’s all over again.
One of the main reasons small businesses die is because the owner works in the business instead of on the business. Do you know what this means? Do you walk into a small restaurant or convenience store? Who is the chef in the back or the cashier? Usually the owner.
They work as an employee, and that doesn’t give them time to work on the business and make it grow. If anything, owners should work more on the business than in it. Schedule a lot of time to work on ways to bring in new income instead of saying a little bit on the payroll.
You might have employees, or you might be the boss of a team in your workplace. Make it a habit to just let them know they are appreciated. Rewarded doesn’t have to mean you pay them extra or give them a vacation. Some of the best bosses are the best because they understand how their employees are motivated.
Coming from someone who works out of his house, you must realize that there will never be a perfect workplace. You’ll never have that perfect job and even once you do you’ll never have that environment where you can just crank out loads of work with no interruptions.
You have to learn to cope with co-workers interrupting you, social media dinging on your phone, or your family barging in if you work out of the house.
We all need outlets in life. I 100% enjoy everything I do, but sometimes I still need just to put everything down and have a relaxation day. With people like Gary Vaynerchuk just saying “Grind it out” and watching him work 18 hour days, it makes you think you need to do it too.
This just isn’t true. He has off days he doesn’t show. You need to find time for some too.
Having a routine once you leave work can elevate you to happiness after a long stressful day at your job. Don’t just grab a beer and sit on the couch to watch TV.
Grab one of the habits on this list like going for a walk or spending some time with family. Also, try to leave work on the same schedule every day. When you bounce back and forth, it makes it seem like the longer days just drag on and can hurt your performance.
This had to be here, and everyone knows it. You hear it all the time that what you put in your body is very important. Face the facts. Food is your fuel for the day, and when you don’t have your fuel, you’ll burn out earlier and start crashing in the afternoon.
If you have trouble lagging in those early hours and also exercising, one of the best things you can do is just some morning squats to get your day going. Wake up, brush your teeth, stand in your room or bathroom and just do three sets of squats. If that’s too easy, add some weight or do some sit-ups as well.
Not only can walking help for stress, but it’s obviously a way to gain a healthy daily habit. For most people, it’s probably easier to wake up and do the squats, but you can then work up to this exercise.
It’s obvious that going to a gym helps with the health aspect of your life. But something people don’t know is that if you can stick with a habit of going to the gym, it makes other rituals much easier to develop. Going through all that to live a better life makes your walk in the morning seem like child’s play. Whether you are an advanced Gym-goer or never went before, try this free account with my recommended online health program. It’s free and works fantastic.
Yoga is probably the underdog of the entire exercise world. It’s looked at as difficult by outsiders, and most guys think they are above doing it. You should know though it’s easy enough for a beginner and with YouTube and yoga apps, you can learn how to do it in the comfort of your bedroom. It releases physical tension and well-being with every exercise.
Studies have shown that eating breakfast within this 30 minutes helps in a couple different ways. Most importantly, it allows your metabolism to start up quickly.
Your metabolism slows down while you sleep and the faster you get something small down, the better off your body can work the rest of the day.
Earlier, I talked about having an accountability partner, and it might be even more important for fitness. Having one friend or a support group has shown to help anyone trying to get in better shape.
If you have health goals, find a like-minded friend, and connect with them whenever you can. This will help you get over the edge when you need that push.
There is no one-size-fits-all blueprint for creating the best daily rituals. Everyone has different personalities and things that make us tick.
Just because your role model does something like 30 minutes of visualization in the morning doesn’t mean you have to do that to be successful as well. The truth is you just have to try things until you find ones that work.
When you find your best rituals, you can truly find success in your life path.
Which of these rituals have you tried before? Which of them will you try today? Do you have a habit that helps you that’s not on this list?
Let me know below.
I have always believed that our daily actions make our life. It’s not where we’re born or who we know. It’s the habits that we form in our daily lives that make us who we are.
If you took a step back and looked at the habits you have throughout the day, you can see that some are good and helping you and some are bad and holding you back.
In this post, I’m going to share with you 10 Habits to Start in 2019. These rituals move through things like goal setting and productivity all the way to relaxation and mindset.
Now a habit doesn’t just form from reading about it. You have to execute. So pick a couple that you find in this article and execute. What you do with this list is completely up to you. So let's get started.
One of the most important habits you can start is doing more than what people expect from you. No matter if we have a job or we own our own business, we have goals to meet.
Our boss might want us to sell 5 cars this month. Our manufacturer might want us to raise numbers by 20%. We might tell ourselves that we want to raise our own revenue by a certain number.
Sell 8 cars in that month. Sell so much more your manufacturer can’t keep up. Raise your income in a way that you didn’t think possible.
There’s a couple reasons to do this. The first one is you’ll surprise everyone. Take this from someone who has employed and managed many people, when you tell workers to do something most of the time, you’re not expecting a whole lot.
We all have that friend who if we were leaving for a movie at 7:00 pm, we’d tell them we’re picking them up at 6:30 so they would be ready by 7:00. Managers do that too.
If I ran a dealership, I would tell my salesmen to sell ten cars a month because I knew by saying 10, they would really only reach for five cars.
Imagine being that person who not only achieved the goal but surpassed it and went over the top. You’ll be rewarded, you’ll be exalted, and you’ll be happy to know that your boss, manager, or whoever it is can count on you and you can then count on them.
The second reason to do this is because it changes your own mindset. This is entirely what Grant Cardone’s 10x rule is all about. Let’s say you have a goal to hit $100,000 in income in 2019. You break down the math and that means you need to take home about $274 per day in your business.
What most people do right there is let’s say you make a sale at nine in the morning for $300. Most people stop right there and don’t work the rest of the day. This mindset of over-delivering won’t let that happen.
If you make $300 in the first hour of working that makes you can make two grand in a whole work day if you tried hard enough. That’s $2000 instead of $274 which is almost 10x. $2000 a day multiplied by 365 comes out to $730,000 which seems a hell of a lot better than $100,000.
Now of course you might not hit those numbers consistently, but you’re over-delivering on your $274 number and that’s all that matters.
Once you put in the habit of over-delivering in 2019, you’ll build a reputation with yourself and the people you work with and you’ll set yourself up for more success than you could even think possible.
If you want to be successful in 2019, you must be consistent.
Show up when you should, do the work you need to do, and learn when you need to learn.
I have things I do every month, things I do every week, and things I do every day, and one of the reasons my businesses are growing is because I know I am doing those things everyday no matter what.
Every “overnight success” you can think of had a behind the scenes of being consistent in their daily actions. Gary Vee posted a wine library video for 14 views hundreds of times before anyone cared. Ray Allen would practice two hours a day, five days a week, for 20 years before becoming the best three point shooter of all time.
Like the famous Bruce Lee quote, “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”
This is something that we used to hear back in school but no one ever did it. 2019 is the perfect time to start.
An accountability partner is someone who coaches someone else and forces them to keep the daily rituals that they are trying to instill in their lives.
Let’s say you want to write eight blog posts a month in 2019, but you know you procrastinate with writing. Find someone who will literally message you on Tuesdays and Fridays and have them ask, “How’s the post coming?” and “When are you publishing?”
It’s a funny thing but we have no problem putting things off and letting ourselves down all the time but when someone else is watching us even if they’re not with us, we don’t want to let them see us fail.
That’s why accountability partners are so powerful.
Here’s a couple ways to make this even stronger. Find a group that’s trying to do the same things as you. If you want to start running every morning, I’m sure there is a network online where you can find other people that want to run every morning as well. Have an accountability group where you all check up on each other.
I’m looking to make some accountability groups in my own Facebook Group once it gets up in size and we can help each other out. If you want to join and be there when we start that, you are more than welcome!
One extra way and this one is even more likely to make you succeed but you need to be lucky - find someone who’s already done it and can mentor you on it.
In our running example, are you going to be more embarrassed if you tell another lazy person who’s not running either that you didn’t do it this morning or a crossfit trainer who works out four hours a day?
If you want to write blog posts, would telling someone who hasn’t even started their own blog benefit you more than having someone help you who writes for a big website?
We all know the answer and know who to look for now.
I mentioned goals in the consistency part of this article but this should be a habit that is taught in kindergarten and of course it’s not taught in school at all.
Setting a goal for each of these could be the most important thing you do because what you do throughout your days, weeks, and months should revolve around these goals.
I know that I want to start a YouTube channel soon and hit 1000 subscribers within three months of starting it. 1000 subscribers in three months comes out to about 334 subscribers a month or 11 subscribers a day.
Now that I know the numbers and what they break down to, I can figure out the tasks on what I need to do to reach those numbers. I would post X amount of videos a week, reach out to my social media about them X amount of times and so on.
One important aspect in this habit is that I’m giving myself a deadline. A lot of us make a goal but it’s not specific.
Many of us have a goal to “Become A Millionaire.” But if these three words are your only goal I promise it won’t happen. Become a millionaire by when? Become a millionaire how? What will you do? What do you need to learn? When will you start?
All these things can’t be answered unless you make specific goals and then make specific tasks to reach them and then execute on those tasks to reach the goals.
One of my all time favorite movies is The Social Network about the founding of Facebook. According to Zuckerberg, it’s not very accurate and pretty comical but probably the main reason I like it is because I learned about “Wired In Time.”
Now when I first saw the movie I was still in high school, didn’t have a job and just played Baseball and video games all day but three years later in 2013 when I was starting my online businesses, I saw the movie again and it changed one segment of my day forever.
In the movie at all times, one coder in their Facebook house is “wired-in”. This means that they can’t talk to anyone, they can’t be distracted, they’re not to get up and they must do the tasks they need to do.
Now, of course they did it for 16 hours or so at a time and it’s too extreme for most of us but I did take that idea and shorten it.
Make one task that is important to you your wired-in time. Leave your phone away from you, turn off the music and TVs, don’t let anyone come into your space until you finished the task at hand.
For me, this is usually some writing or some business things that I know is essential within the next couple days. No matter who we are and how successful we become, there will always be distractions.
Our phones give us a little dopamine jolt whenever it goes off and even the most focused people still get distracted by something so small.
Not only will this make you more productive, but you’ll start to realize tasks that usually take you two hours or more with all these distractions, only take 30 minutes when you’re “wired-in”.
I find it funny that as millennials, we learn all these things from how computers work to how to read certain books to make us smarter to how to use Instagram filters to get us more girls but what we don’t know is what makes us act certain ways.
You ever find yourself mad for no reason, or depressed, or angry? Maybe you even realize your happy for no reason whatsoever.
Start noticing this and taking notes either physically or in your own head on when you react this way. Think about what is going on around you when you get this way.
When you get mad, is there a noise that’s going on around you? Maybe a certain person came into your life but you don’t correlate the two.
Maybe when you get depressed and you write down what’s going on around you, you realize it’s the time of day, or when you have to do this certain task.
I’ll give you an example. Just like probably everybody reading this, I suffer from anxiety sometimes. I went years without knowing why and never really talked about it. It wasn’t bad and it didn’t hurt me or anything. I think at the time I didn’t even know it was called anxiety. I just thought I couldn’t shut my mind up.
I took a step back, and thought about why on certain days, when I’m laying down to go to sleep, I feel anxious and other days I’m fine.
I was writing down the things I did throughout the day and realized the days where I felt more productive and was achieving big things as the days where I didn’t have my mind racing.
The days where I had an off day or maybe I just felt lazy and didn’t do everything I was supposed to was the days where I lay awake in bed and couldn’t stop the feeling of anxiety.
I learned that I always have to be making progress. When I don’t feel like I am, I feel like I’m not doing anything important.
I don’t see this as a bad thing. Tony Robbins says “the key to happiness is progress.” But if I didn’t take a step back and study myself, I would have never known and maybe still laying in bed for hours at a time thinking something worse is wrong with me.
Study yourself and your tendencies and see if you can learn something new.
Now I just talked about how I feel like I always have to be progressing in everything I do and this makes me somewhat of a workaholic. But even I need to take breaks and so do you.
We all need something in our lives that allows us to just breathe and make us happy.
Working hard for our goals isn’t always fun. It isn’t always easy. Most of the time it exhausts you and it feels like you’re getting punched over and over again.
Finding some way to make you happy just for a little bit allows yourself to keep grinding once you’re done.
Maybe it’s hiking, maybe it’s going to a zoo or playing with your pet, maybe it’s Netflix or watching videos on YouTube.
For me, it’s video games. If I feel frustrated or can’t keep working for whatever reason, I’ll hop on a video game for thirty minutes to an hour and then hop right back into what what I was doing feeling refreshed and ready to go.
Most of the time the creativity needed in the games allows me to carry it over into my work which helps me out a lot.
Listen to music, play an instrument, color, draw, watch TV, watch a Ted Talk, hang out with your family, take your significant other on a date.
There’s so many different ways you can find a way to make yourself happy to push you through to help you with the rest of your habits.
Now this one, just like number seven, is going to depend on you as everyone’s idea of exercise is different.
I can tell you that if I don’t get my three to four days in the gym a week I feel lazy, unproductive, bloated and sometimes even angry.
You might be reading this and saying “three to four days! I can’t even go for one day.”
And there is someone else reading this saying “three to four days is weak. You have to go every day.”
Exercise is something that completely depends on you, your condition, and the priority it means to you but everyone should make it a priority. If you’re completely new to the thought of it, start with some push-ups or sit-ups in your room or some squats and running in place.
If you can get to a gym and lift and get on a treadmill, that’s even better. Exercise can help you relieve stress, feel more confident, have more energy, help you communicate better, and handle problems.
Soon enough, you’ll start thinking of exercise as a reward to yourself instead of a punishment.
This could be the toughest one on the list for you. I know people who go crazy if they are left alone for two hours.
I’m a 90% introvert on the Myers Briggs Test and I promise that I’m not one of those people. I had to teach myself how to be better in social situations which I have a lot. But just like I had to learn, extroverts have to learn how to be alone, especially if they want to see massive success.
Success involves a lot of solitary work, staying up late by yourself or waking up early in the morning before anyone else is there. If you’re not able to work by yourself and get things done, then you can’t expect to go far on your journey.
Learn how to deal with those quiet lonely times. Create a habit of isolating yourself if you need to just for a couple minutes a day to teach yourself how to cope with it.
The last thing you want is to be full momentum on an idea that can change your life and you have to wait for someone to be there with you for you to execute it. Because that person might never show up.
You know I can’t make a new habits post and not mention that learning shouldn’t be a main point of your next year.
Learning is what my whole life revolves around and the main reason why my businesses grow. It’s why 99% of people get where they are. They learned how to do what they do well or they taught themselves the skills needed to get there.
Sometimes we have a hard time picking things we should be learning so we just choose not to focus on it. I’ll help you with that.
One of my bad habits is making spreadsheets. It’s not a bad habit like smoking or gambling. I just probably have too many of them. I have spreadsheets on goals and tasks I need to do to reach them.
If I have goals on there that I want to reach, I know there are also things I need to learn to get there. That’s an easy way to start.
If you want to start a clothing brand but don’t know the first thing about designing clothes, making the clothes or selling them, those are probably three crucial things you need to learn.
Learning can come with reading books, reading blogs, watching YouTube videos, watching documentaries, taking courses, learning from mentors, experiencing things in the real world and much more.
Everyday I read books and blogs, watch YouTube videos and courses that I’ve bought, and I talk to mentors and accountability partners weekly to make myself better and learn what I need to learn to get where I want to be.
One of the biggest excuses I hear when people talk to me about business is “Well I would do this but I don’t know how to get started.”
We live in the best era in the world where you can literally Google anything and thousands of things will pop up with ways to learn it.
Take advantage of it before it’s too late.
Which daily habits motivated and inspire you?
Maybe even combine some of them. If you don’t know what to do during your wired-in time, make it a 20 minute session of learning. Or tell your accountability partner about your daily, weekly, and monthly goals so they can help you out as well.
Which habits are you going to start in 2019?
Let me know in the comments down below.
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One of the biggest ways we get inspiration is through videos. One of the best ways to look for this is through Ted Talks. I’ve watched probably hundreds of these and as of this writing, there are over 2,800 of them available to watch.
What makes Ted Talks so great is that they are given by some of the top people in almost every field imaginable and they are restricted to be very short. Most speakers only have ten to fifteen minutes to talk.
Every Ted Talk is free to watch and download but you can’t possibly go through 2800 videos so I’m laying out my favorite ten that I believe will help you as you’re reading this right now.
So sit back, relax, and enjoy The Best Ted Talks for 2019.
In this talk, Tony Robbins discusses the motivation behind our actions and how we can use that to our advantage. Learning this can result in actually being able to enhance our inspiration around doing things that maybe we used to procrastinate on.
This is probably my favorite one but also one of the oldest on this list. Ken Robinson focuses on education and even though this was 12+ years ago, the things he says that is wrong with education are still wrong today. This is the most popular Ted Talk of all time.
Simon Sinek has third most popular Ted Talk ever and it started his movement in inspiring people to ask a question. This movement lead him to write one of the best business books of all time. Why are some people more innovative and successful than others? In this talk, he gives the answer.
If you're looking for a talk with a little bit of a comedic side, this is a talk for you. Morgan was the guy behind Super Size Me, where he ate McDonald's three times a day for 30 days. Now he's doing a talk all about marketing and branding and putting his playful side into it.
Mathemagician Arthur Benjamin can do 5 and 6 digit multiplication in his head. In this talk, he'll teach you how he does it exactly. I actually have his book on how to do all of this and recommend it.
Ever find yourself procrastinating right up to your deadline? Tim Urban talks about how we all are procrastinators in some way in our life. Watch this funny talk and see if you can pick up on ways to get more done within your day and week.
Most of my readers know I'm pretty opinionated against public schools. So is Sal Khan. That's why he created Khan Academy, a website where each user can take their own path to mastery in school subjects instead of what public school does now. Watch this to see the importance.
Apollo Robbins is known as the greatest pickpocket-er in the world. In this talk, he takes you through ways people deceive you and how your perception is everything.
Whether you've never seen a Ted Talk before or you're farther in your watching journey than I am, these videos can help you on your learning path.
Do you have a favorite Ted Talk that I missed? Please tell me about it in the comments section below.
Books have played a big part in my life and how I became the man I am today. Self Help Books have played a crucial part in that. Whether you’re looking for a book to inspire you, teach you, push you, or change you, I promise you’ll find a book that will help you on this list.
We have gathered the best self help books and made one of the best lists out there just for you. These books range from quick, easy reads to longer manual type books. This list can help make even the busiest section of the self help section seem possible to find that next book you want on your shelf today.
Let’s start with the classic. Think and Grow Rich is one of the most read books of all time and it deserves that title. This book was written in 1937 and is probably more relevant today than ever before.
It contains Hill’s laws of success and provides you with 13 principles of personal achievement. One of the main takeaways is that seeking success in our own lives is a choice that we make everyday. Creating that mindset for success allows us to take control of our lives and beat our fears.
Basically, becoming the best we can be is based on actually knowing we can be successful.
Dale Carnegie has a couple different books that are all considered best sellers but How to Win Friends and Influence People was by far his best book. The best book out there on how to deal with people and communicate in the way you want.
The #1 book for introverts and turning you into the alpha male you want to be. It teaches you the right tactics to use when interacting with others which is something we have to do everyday and we all should master.
Talking to people and communication should be something every single one of us should master, including you. No matter what you decide to do in life, you’re going to have to talk to people - I promise. If you want to become better in social settings or get better with your co-workers and peers, read this now.
Covey teaches the 7 Habits you need to develop to succeed in life. Since it’s publish in 1989, it has sold 25 million copies. The personal development book is exactly what it says. It is a guide to the habits that make up the most successful people in our society.
These 7 habits allow readers to achieve self mastery and has influenced presidents, CEO’s and more. This classic is a must-read that will influence you and your life as well.
We all know Tony Robbins. This book is one of his oldest and shows you how to master your emotions and your body and win in your relationships, finances, and life.
One of the main things Robbins talks about in Awaken the Giant Within is how to get people to stop struggling with change by becoming aware of your behaviors and the reasoning behind them.
The next book is arguably my favorite book of all time. 48 Laws of Power has some weird admirers like Fidel Castro and 50 Cent and the DJ Calvin Harris has one of the laws tattooed on his arm.
48 Laws of Power walks you through the 48 laws the richest and most successful people use to acquire and maintain power. This book covers influence, negotiations, and relationships with bosses and power players.
This book is so important that I’ve wrote a review and a full blog post just on this book. You can read it here.
More than often, we let the fear of losing the game keep us away from playing. Sincero helps you get past that fear in the bestseller You Are A Badass. There is lots of knowledge around money, relationships, and self-development.
As you can guess by the title, Jen has a good sense of humor and is kind of abrasive. This comes off as refreshing to me because she doesn’t hold back and tells it like it is. As a success coach, she’s helped lots of people change their lives and this book can help you as well.
Back to another one of my favorites and probably one of my top three. Rich Dad, Poor Dad is probably looked at as arguably the most popular business book of all time and I think one of the best.
This book uses two characters, “poor dad” and “rich dad” and highlights the differences in the way they teach, think, and even act in their day to day lives. Robert Kiyosaki as a kid had a poor dad who was his biological father and a rich one he looked up to.
This book shares lots of lessons on things to do but one of the reasons I like it the most is it shares even more lessons on what not to do. If you want to gain more financial and business knowledge with an easy to read book, this is it.
Yes this is by the same author as number 7. It’s actually the follow up book to Rich Dad, Poor Dad. That book is all about how he did it and opening you up to being able to escape the rat race. Cash Flow Quadrant is about actually teaching you how to do it.
This book was written to teach people how to get past just working a 9 - 5, find a side hustle, turn it into a business, and enter the world of financial freedom. Most people spent years in school but were never taught about money. This book will teach you a lot.
Number 9 just so happens to be the newest book on this list and it’s from one of my favorites Gary Vaynerchuk. Gary runs a successful media agency with 700+ employees and $200 million or so in revenues each year from companies like Pepsi and Budweiser having them do their advertising just in case you wanted to know if he could build a business.
This book is a follow up to his book Crush it! that came out in 2009. This book is a guide to building a brand for yourself on all social media. That’s Gary’s thing. If you can build a following, anything after that can be easier because now you have people who want to know what you’re up to.
Crushing It! is a guide to building that brand to lead you to career and financial success. It allows you to start living life on your own terms.
Now to another social media star that I talk about a lot on All Day Progress. Grant is part of the social media gurus I always talk about and this is his best book yet in my humble opinion. This book is a wake-up call to anyone who thinks they should be having success but aren’t yet.
Be Obsessed or Be Average is all about learning how to become obsessed (obviously) about achieving success and stopping at nothing short to reach that goal. This book gives you the inspiration and the tools to hit your craziest goals.
This is probably the self help book for millennials who can’t stand reading books written by sixty year olds and just want to change it up. Manson runs a blog that is known for being raw and doesn’t sugarcoat anything and that’s how this book is as well.
This book isn’t about how to be positive or optimistic actually. This book teaches you that in life 99% of the time your situation is going to be horrible. But throughout the reading, he teaches you how to not only turn lemons into lemonade, but how to start dealing with all the sh*t that gets thrown at you everyday.
The Magic of Thinking Big is all about teaching the importance of setting bigger goals. You ever hear that saying “Shoot for the moon and even if you’ll miss you’ll end up in the stars.” That’s what this book is trying to convey.
People think of themselves as too small or too insignificant and that can’t be farther from the truth. Every person that’s ever done anything spectacular is no different from you and that must be something you believe to be successful and this book teaches you lessons to help you believe.
The One Thing has been a bestseller more than 350 times. This book has a simple but powerful concept. The two authors urge you to just focus on one thing at a time. Stop the multi-tasking and the juggling of different tasks and just get that one thing done first.
This book teaches you how to find that one thing for your day that can help you get to where you want to be. Then forces you to get it done. A lot of times we have many things we think we should do throughout the day so we try to juggle them all.
Most of the time only one of those tasks is actually THE thing to get done and if we’re bouncing around from task to task it might not happen. The key to this is having far less distractions.
I’m a big advocate of The Compound Effect in life because of this book. What you do today could 5x the results you get tomorrow. If you want to start a business, starting today could help you become financially free in three years. Starting in six months, it could take you seven years to reach the same milestone.
Why does this happen? Because of the compound effect. This book offers a simple step-by-step guide on how to increase the chances of you becoming successful. Jumpstart your life with this book and watch it work for you.
We’ve gone through books that talk about planning for tomorrow and learning from yesterday but not many of us think about the now. That’s what this book is about.
We seldom think about our lives long enough to realize what’s going on right now. If we really want to know who we are, we must be honest about what is happening in this moment and Eckhart Tolle is the best at showing you how to do that.
This book is loved by Oprah Winfrey and many more and probably the most popular spiritual book of all time. If you’re looking for a spiritual book, look no further.
One of my favorite people to read is Ramit and this book is a staple to launching his career. On his site Iwillteachyoutoberich.com, he teaches millennials the financial know how to create lasting income along with saving and investing what you need. His book is just another segment to that.
My favorite thing about him is he’s not the “stop buying coffee and save an extra hundred bucks” type of financial guy that makes me roll my eyes. He tells you things that will actually change the way you look at money and even though this book was released a decade ago, it’s still highly relevant today.
You won’t find a marketer, entrepreneur, or personal development junkie that says a bad thing about this book. Recommended by everyone, Influence is a book that teaches you all about the human mind.
Why do people say yes and no? Why certain colors make people react certain ways? Why do people buy to this and say no to that? This book will help you understand social proof, scarcity, and more psychological tactics that can help you in business and even in life.
Probably my second favorite psychology book behind Influence is Thinking, Fast and Slow. This book dives deep into the different systems of thought. This is stuff you probably never thought of before but could change the way you think.
System 1 is the instinctive part of your brain or the “fast” part and system 2 is the logical or “slow” part. Each system has advantages and disadvantages and this book shows you how to maneuver around both. This book is a little more advanced but a perfect read for those that like diving deep into psychology.
Many experts believe our chance at success is made up of the habits we do daily. The Power of Habit looks into the daily routines we all have and how to break bad habits and start good ones. Duhigg goes into the three steps in a habit: the cue, the routine and the reward.
Establishing new habits is important to creating a lifetime of success. This book was a big factor in me writing our 80 Daily Rituals Post and you should check it out!
Having trouble with procrastination? This book is exactly what you need. The 5 Second Rule teaches you how to push yourself into doing the things that you don’t exactly want to do.
We all have that feeling. We know there is something to do that will make us better, or make us more money, or talking to that girl but we feel a pause and then we do something else.
Mel teaches you how to get past that hesitation in this simple trick. It works for any situation, you just have to do it.
Simon Sinek isn’t focused on what you do for work. He wants to know what inspires you to work. He has the third most popular TED talk of all time.
Start With Why shows us that leaders and businesses have to influence as much as they market and this book leads you to be able to build a framework that businesses and lives can be built on.
Gamification is becoming huge and this book has been the best I've found on the subject. Gamification is the application of game-design elements and game principles in non-game contexts.
This book teaches us about the Eight Core Drives that motivate the way we act. If you understand these then it makes reading people and build businesses that much easier.
It also goes through the process of learning things like extrinsic drives and intrinsic drives. There is also black hat motivation and white hat motivation. Understanding the differences in these allows you to hack the way you act throughout the day. I learned so many guidelines on how to improve my personal development and the knowledge I gain throughout my cycles.
The Better Man Project is a handbook for any man that wants to live a better life. Bill Phillips used to be the editor in chief of MensHealth magazine.
Every chapter of this book has a different purpose. Diet, fitness, health, relationships, business, sex, and more. This book serves as a guide but is also a great read as well.
Whenever I need a quick tip to help me out, I open up this book, find the chapter I need, and get the knowledge I’m looking for.
You want to read a page in a book and become smarter right on the spot? Then this book is for you. Every chapter (they’re very short) is a different mindset or change that you can make to your thought processes.
Changing just this one thing can make you think like a genius. This book is a guide to anyone who wants to become more creative and smarter right on the spot.
One of my favorite people of all time is Leonardo Da Vinci. Gelb had access to his notebooks and inventions and created what are known now as the Seven Da Vincian Principles. These principles are known as the elements of genius.
Probably the most advanced book on this list but also one of the best if you can handle it. With this book anyone can become like Da Vinci.
Personal Development books are my secret weapon to gaining all the knowledge I need. Do you know any books missing from this list? Maybe there's a book on here you don't agree with. Let me know in the comments below.
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When was the last time you tried to learn a new skill? Maybe it was a language, or a new recipe, or even a skill to make you more money?
Most people stay away from this because no one wants to feel like a beginner at all. Think about it, you were in your foreign language class in high school and you knew absolutely nothing about the language. It frustrated you a little bit.
Imagine having to learn how to ride a bike as an adult now. You would ask yourself, “What if I fall? What if I get laughed at?” These questions make most of us just give up altogether and go play video games.
Breaking through that first barrier is the toughest. Every person reading this knows that the only way to improve your life is to get better and learn new things. This is why you’re on a personal development blog in the first place.
This is why I’m going to teach you how to create the habit of learning something new every day.
Successful people commit to dedicating time to learn. Think about the people you look up to. Do you think they make a habit of spending their spare time on Netflix and video games or learning new things and mastering their crafts?
We all know the answer.
Let’s talk about some of the things I’ve taught myself over the years.
I learned all of these things while I had a job or, once I quit, working on my businesses. I did this without neglecting my life. I still go out with my girlfriend every week, I still sleep a “normal” amount (who really gets 8 hours of sleep anymore), and I still focus on other aspects of my life.
Now each of those skills that I learn helps me out in my day to day life, and it gets extra points if I can make some money off it in some way.
It’s not tough though. If you know what to do, you can go from an absolute beginner into accomplishment within a couple of learning sessions. There’s no limit to what you can learn.
Take a moment to think of everything you wish you would know. Maybe you’d like to:
You can practically learn any skill in any area of your life and each skill that you learn will open up new areas for you to explore, capitalize, and of course, learn. Learning these skills is almost like compound investing.
Teach yourself these new things and then you can teach yourself harder ones and it just compounds and compounds until something you learn six months ago seems like child’s play to you now.
Most people start too broad with their learning. The number one reason why people don’t learn something like a language is that they tell themselves, “I want to learn a new language.” That’s not how you do things.
You don’t get taught math all in one big lesson. You learn addition, then subtraction, decimals, fractions, geometry, algebra etc. With something new, you MUST break down steps to get there instead of tackling the whole thing in one big swing because then it’s too intimidating and it will never get done.
The other problem is people can’t stand the beginner phase. Our brains don’t work like they did when we were five. If we don’t understand something within ten minutes, we shut down. Do you remember how long it took you to ride a bike? It didn’t take ten minutes for you to get on, balance, and move three feet.
It took hours just to get this part and then we still fell on our faces. But we as kids didn’t care because that’s all we knew and we wanted to learn. This is the mindset we need to have when trying to learn every day.
Most people know that everyone learns a little bit differently. Your best friend may be able to read something and understand it completely, but you have to actually have hands-on experience or else you don’t retain any information.
This is a well-known fact yet most schools teach all the kids the same way. That way is usually whatever the teacher is most comfortable with, mostly read a topic then write about it in a quiz or essay.
Some people may find that they prefer one of these learning styles over another but can learn with any of the three, while others can only learn one certain way and the other two just go in one ear and out another. There is no perfect mix but you can develop the styles you prefer less as well as grow the style of your learning preference.
Here are the three types of learning styles and how you can figure out yours:
Visual – this is what you see 80% of the time in school which actually means most people were taught so much to learn this way that most don’t prefer it anymore. Visual learning is what you would think it means. You use your eyes to learn. This pertains to reading and writing basically. You read the information then write it down whether in note form or on an essay and retain the information that way.
Auditory – You must hear the information with your ears to take it in. This type is usually the people who prefer audiobooks over physical. They can’t remember something you read a week ago but can remember something someone told you a month ago. Another good way to get yourself to learn if you’re auditory is coming up with those silly songs or rhymes to remember important things you otherwise wouldn’t remember.
Kinesthetic – this is becoming known as the “millennial form of learning.” Kinesthetic learners prefer to do hands-on, physical activities to learn. Whether this is trips or projects, this is the way most people our age like to learn and even work.
Understanding your learning style allows you to become aware of how your brain learns best. If you understand this, then you’ll be able to communicate with the teachers and mentors who teach you throughout life. You’ll also be able to create your personal lesson plans when you teach yourself in a way that will be most productive.
The most important thing that you must do next is actually start the process of learning. Find what works best for you and just do trial and error. Reading about this stuff isn’t enough. You actually have to be committed to practicing your learning ability and progressing daily.
Here at All Day Progress we actually have a small course on the seven step process to learning any skill you could ever desire. In this course, you’ll be able to cut through the junk and learn that skill quickly and easily.
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For everyone else, I hope you enjoyed this article. Just remember if you’re willing to put in the work, the most simple methods can bring you the best results.
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