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The 48 Laws of Power List & Summary

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The book 48 Laws of Power is one of my favorite books and it was written by Robert Greene. It tells you what power looks like, how to get it, and what to do against other powerful people. Basically, this book teaches you how to use power and keep it and that’s why I am showing you this 48 Laws of Power List.

Below are the 48 Laws along with a summary of each. These snippets were taken right out of the book. They are not my words as I obviously did not write the book.

48 Laws of Power List

The 48 Laws of Power List:

Law 1: Never outshine the master. 

Always make those above you feel comfortably superior.  In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity.  Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.

Law 2: Never put too much trust in friends; learn how to use enemies. 

Be wary of friends – they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy.  They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend because he has more to prove.  In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.

Law 3: Conceal your intentions. 

Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions.  If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelope them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.

Law 4: Always say less than necessary. 

When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control.  Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less.  The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.

Law 5: So much depends on reputation – guard it with your life. 

Reputation is the cornerstone of power.  Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable and will be attacked on all sides.  Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations.  Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.

Law 6: Court attention at all cost. 

Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing.  Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out.  Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious, than the bland and timid masses.

Law 7: Get others to do the work for you, but always take the credit. 

Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause.  Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed.  In the end, your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do for you.

Law 8: Make other people come to you – use bait if necessary. 

When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control.  It is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process.  Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack. You hold the cards.

Law 9: Win through your actions, never through argument. 

Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory:  The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion.  It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.

Law 10: Infection: avoid the unhappy and unlucky. 

You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease.  You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster.  The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

Law 11: Learn to keep people dependent on you. 

To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted.  The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear.  Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.

Law 12: Use selective honesty and generosity to disarm your victim. 

One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones.  Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people.  Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.

Law 13: When asking for help, appeal to people’s self-interest, never to their mercy or gratitude. 

If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds.  He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion.  He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.

Law 14: Pose as a friend, work as a spy. 

Knowing about your rival is critical.  Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead.  Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe.  Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.

Law 15: Crush your enemy totally.

All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely.  (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out.  More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.

Law 16: Use absence to increase respect and honor. 

Too much circulation makes the price go down:  The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear.  If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more, admired.  You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.

Law 17: Keep others in suspended terror: cultivate an air of unpredictability.  

Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions.  Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves.  Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.

Law 18: Do not build fortresses to protect yourself – isolation is dangerous.

The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves.  A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target.  Better to circulate among people, find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.

Law 19: Know who you’re dealing with – do not offend the wrong person. 

There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way.  Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.

Law 20: Do not commit to anyone. 

It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.

Law 21: Play a sucker to catch a sucker – seem dumber than your mark.

No one likes feeling stupider than the next person.  The trick, then, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are.  Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.

Law 22: Use the surrender tactic: transform weakness into power.

When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead.  Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane.  Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first. By turning the other cheek you infuriate and unsettle him.  Make surrender a tool of power.

Law 23: Concentrate your forces.

Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point.  You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time.  When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.

Law 24: Play the perfect courtier.

The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity.  He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the most oblique and graceful manner.  Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court. 

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Law 25: Re-create yourself.

Do not accept the roles that society foists on you.  Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience.  Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define it for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.

Law 26: Keep your hands clean.

You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds.  Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.

Law 27: Play on people’s need to create a cultlike following.

People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something.  Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow.  Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf.  In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.

Law 28: Enter action with boldness.

If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it.  Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous:  Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.

Law 29: Plan all the way to the end.

The ending is everything.  Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others.  By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop. Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.

Law 30: Make your accomplishments seem effortless.

Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease.  All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed.  When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions.  Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.

Law 31: Control the options: get others to play with the cards you deal.

The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice:  Your victims feel they are in control but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose.  Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.

Law 32: Play to people’s fantasies.

The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant.  Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment.  Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert:  Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.

Law 33: Discover each man’s thumbscrew.

Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall.  That weakness is usually an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure.  Either way, once found it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.

Law 34: Be royal in your own fashion: act like a king to be treated like one.

The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you.  For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.

Law 35: Master the art of timing.

Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time.  Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power.  Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.

Law 36: Disdain things you cannot have: ignoring them is the best revenge.

By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility.  The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it.  It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.

Law 37: Create compelling spectacles.

Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them.  Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence.  Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.

Law 38: Think as you like but behave like others.

If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them.  They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.

Law 39: Stir up waters to catch fish. 

Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive.  You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage.  Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.

Law 40: Despise the free lunch.

What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation.  What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit.  It is also often wise to pay the full price – there are no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.

Law 41: Avoid stepping into a great man’s shoes.

What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after.  If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them.  Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past, not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course.  Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.

Law 42: Strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter.

Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill.  If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable.  Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.

Law 43: Work on the hearts and minds of others. 

Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you.  You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn.  And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear.  Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.

Law 44: Disarm and infuriate with the mirror effect. 

The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy.  The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson.  Few can resist the power of the Mirror Effect.

Law 45: Preach the need for change, but never reform too much at once. 

Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level, people are creatures of habit.  Too much innovation is traumatic and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things.  If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.

Law 46: Never appear too perfect. 

Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses.  Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable.  Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.

Law 47: Do not go past the mark you aimed for; in victory, learn when to stop. 

The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril.  In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat.  Do not allow success to go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.

Law 48: Assume formlessness. 

By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack.  Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move.  Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order.  Everything changes.  

To Wrap It Up

This book has been ridiculed and loved by many and I am one of the ones that love it. Rappers, actors, and celebrities are some of the people who praise it the most and it has over 1.2 million copies sold just in the United States.

This list can only give you some of the value that the whole book and I highly recommend you grab it. I would recommend this to the teenager who gets bullied, or the guy in the office who gets stepped on by his co-workers. Basically, anyone that wants to learn lessons on power that they don’t teach us in public society.

If you found this list helpful, comment below your favorite law! Maybe I'll comment below my favorite and why I like that one so much. If you'd like to check out the book, you can find it here.

If you liked this article, check out our articles on the Ultimate Guide to Travel Hacking and How to Be An Alpha Male!

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Words to Live By

Words to Live By – 75 Inspirational Quotes for 2019

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Quotes have a special effect on how we act as human beings. Some quotes make us smile, some bring memories back to our minds, and some quotes can even make us cry. 

My favorite type of quotes are the ones that inspire us. The ones that make you get up and take action to reach your dreams as soon as possible.

That is why I built this list of 75 of my favorite inspirational quotes that you can take with you. I have a collection of hundreds of quotes but these are ones I hand-selected just for this post.

I hope that they inspire you and allow you to start reaching those goals you set and living the life you want to live.

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Words to Live By - 75 Inspirational Quotes

1. I'm not trying to be somebody I'm not... I'm just trying to be everything I can be.

2. It doesn't get easier. You just get stronger.

3. Sometimes people with the worst pasts end up creating the best futures.

4. One of the keys to moving ahead is knowing what to leave behind.

5. One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can't change.

6. Be who you needed when you were younger.

7. Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work hard on your job you can make a living, but if you work hard on yourself, you'll make a fortune.

8. When you're a kid, people push you to follow your dreams. When you get older, people get offended if you even try.

9. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

10. The less you worry about what people think, the less complicated life becomes.

The Less You Worry

11. The key to success is playing the hand you were dealt like it was the hand you wanted.

12. Don't get mad. Don't get even. Do better. Much better. Become so engulfed in your own success & happiness that you forget it ever happened.

13. Let your dreams be bigger than your fears and your actions be louder than your words.

14. Ideas are like rabbits. You get a couple, learn how to handle them, and pretty soon you have a dozen. 

15. You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life.

16. If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you.

17. Everything you do today influences your future. Think about life like that.

18. Grind while they sleep. Learn while they party. Live like they dream.

19. If you truly expect to realize your dreams, abandon the need to be liked by all. Conforming to everyone else's expectations sacrifices your uniqueness and, therefore, your excellence.

20. Don't fear failure... In great attempts, it is glorious even to fail.

21. The more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.

22. How many success stories do you need to hear before you start writing your own?

23. Be very careful about what you think. Your thoughts run your life.

24.  Don’t let $50k per year keep you from $50k per month.

25. Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that but the really great make you feel that you too can become great.

26. Don't chase love, money, or success. Become the best version of yourself and those things will chase you.

27. We have a generation obsessed with looking successful instead of being successful.

28. Understand that half the game is keeping quiet, and carefully watching those around you.

29. Do not show all your cards. Use mystery to beguile, seduce, even frighten.

30. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less.

powerful people impress

31. If you ask for little, shuffle your feet and lower your head, people will assume this reflects on your character.

32. Let no one know what gets to you or where your weaknesses lie.

33. Cheers to all the people working on their dream and not working for the weekend.

34. If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission.

35. Confidence never goes out of style.

36. It's not about the goal. It's about becoming the type of person that can accomplish the goal…

37. No great mind has ever existed without a touch of madness.

38. Your repetition creates your reputation.

39. It is never too late to be what you might have been.

40. The poorest man is not the one without a penny. The poorest man is the one without a dream.

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41. Do something today that your future self will thank you for.

42. If you could be growing at a higher level but you aren't... step up! An exceptional future won't build itself.

43. You need a little bit of insanity to do great things.

44. It always seems impossible until it is done.

45. Spend life with someone who makes you happy, not who you have to impress.

46. You can make money by accident but you won’t get wealthy by accident.

47. If you wait for the perfect time it will never happen.

48. Good things come to those who hustle.

49. I refuse to be anything less than successful.

50. Let's be honest; you didn't grow up dreaming of buying a Toyota and having weekends off.

Let's be honest

51. Don’t work 8 hours for a company then go home and not work on your own goals. You’re not tired, you are uninspired.

52. The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.

53. They kick you when you’re down but then they wanna kick it up when you’re up.

54. Sometimes the way we see a problem is the problem.

55. Make a plan today to kill your goals tomorrow.

56. The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is that a warrior sees everything as a challenge, while an ordinary man sees everything as either a blessing or a curse.

57. Dreams are free. Hustle is sold separately.

58. Love your life and live your dream. What’s the point of being alive if you’re not willing to actually live?

59. Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.

60. Don't think about what can happen in a month. Don't think about what can happen in a year. Just focus on the 24 hours in front of you and do what you can to get closer to where you want to be.


61. Shout out to everyone turning dreams into reality.

62. In the last year, how many decisions have you made that completely changed the course of your life?

63. You’re rare. Never settle for less than you are.

64. Dream big or don’t dream at all.

65. Work hard in silence. Let success make the noise.

66. Nothing worth having comes easy.

67. When you know yourself, no one can define you.

68. To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.

69. What is coming is better than what is gone.

70. ​​​​ Learn to be alone and to like it. There is nothing more freeing and empowering than learning to like your own company.

Embrace Loneliness

71. The fact that you are not where you want to be should be enough motivation.

72. Sometimes you need to stand alone to stand out.

73. It’s going to happen because I’m going to make it happen.

74. People who try to persuade you to give up are not trying to help you, they’re trying to make sense of giving up.

75. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.

To Wrap It Up

I hope this list of quotes has inspired you. If it did, it might be a good idea to save this post so you always have a place to come back when you need motivation. 

Have you heard any of these quotes before? Which quotes do you think should be on this list?

Let me know in the comments down below.

If you’re interested in learning everything about becoming an alpha male, I have a post on the How to Become An Alpha Male that will surely help you out so be sure to check that out.

And if you know someone that would enjoy this resource on inspirational quotes, please share it with them because it will probably help them out. Thank you!

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How to Be A Manly Man

How to Be A Manly Man: 9 Tips to Be More Masculine (& 3 Mistakes!)

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Being male and being a man are completely different. One you are born with and one you become. We can all think of someone who is male but definitely doesn’t act like a man. If you can’t think of someone, this person might be you…

If people doubt you when you tell them you are going to the gym or going to watch sports, this is probably you. If you’re in a room with 10 people and you’re considered last to open the pickle jar, this is probably you. If you get called cute a lot more than sexy or handsome, then this is probably you.

Falling into any of these categories probably wasn’t something you planned on doing but don’t worry. This post will help you turn into the manly man you want to become. 

The good news is that all of these tips below can be used and actually aren’t too difficult. It’s more a mind change than anything else. So no matter what you look like, where you’re from, or who you are, you can harness your manliness today.

#1 Get Fit

Get Fit

I don’t think too many women are longing for the Arnold Schwarzenegger type bodies like they used to but they also aren’t going for the Bill Gates bodies at all. 

One of the most primal instincts in women is admiring strength in their partners. The stronger and more athletic you are, the more manly you become.

If you’re not already in athletic shape, immediately start to exercise every day. Even something as simple as pushups and situps in your room daily will help.

When I’m working hard and don’t have time to go to the gym, I still put aside time to do 50 push-ups and 100 ab reps daily.

Now of course, lifting weights is the best and most efficient way to make a change with your body. So if you can, wake up early and get a gym membership or a weights set for your house and start strength training. Just be careful to use proper technique if you’re new. You don’t want to injure yourself with bad form.

#2 Sharpen Your Brain

One of the best things about the information age is that manly men doesn’t just include bodybuilders now. Smart men are in too!

When I say smart, you don’t have to be scientist smart at all. You just need to be open to the fact that learning is important past school. A manly man has an opinion that is based off facts and informed decisions.

Becoming smarter helps you be better in business or your career, with your relationships, and just getting better at life in general.

Find a new hobby and learn all about it. Study business and finance along with psychology.

Read a book every month, then get it down to every two weeks. Finding a new book is as easy and we have a whole post on the best self-help books here. 

#3 Be Self-Reliant

Modern society programs us to be reliant on other things to feel good about ourselves. Think about the person you know that mood swings depending on how many likes on their Instagram post or if they look like that person on TV.

Becoming Self-Reliant means you rely on yourself to get you where you want to be.

Self-Reliant people:

  • Accept help from others but do their own thinking on all decisions.
  • Gain enough knowledge in an area in their life to help others and provide value.
  • Learn how to generate positive emotions on their own instead of focusing on other things   to do it for them.

We depend more on others than any other time on our planet and it makes us soft. Changing this goes a long way.

#4 Develop Relationships with Other Manly Men

Develop Relationships

Ironically, I’m going to jump from focusing on becoming independent to finding others like you.

One of the most important things we can do in our life is develop relationships. Tai Lopez actually calls this creating allies. 

You ever hear the saying “You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” This works with everything. If you’re 5 closest guy friends don’t act manly, you probably won’t either.

I like to surround myself with people that I want to become. That’s why I create situations where I can meet more people (even as an introvert). Whether it’s traveling or networking at events, creating these relationships allows me to become a better person as well as grow my businesses.

#5 Always Challenge Yourself

Challenging ourselves is what makes humans better. Do you think it was a challenge to build the pyramids in Egypt or to build up a huge start-up like the ones we see today?

Of course it was. That’s why we’re all here. 90% of people spend their life just occupying space and not really enjoying their life. One of the main reasons is they don’t challenge themselves so they never grow. 

Getting out of our comfort zone makes us tougher, smarter, and more experienced.

So go try something new like hiking or martial arts. Start meditating or reading a book for 15 minutes a day. Wake up earlier than you want to and work on that side hustle. 

Basically you don’t want to be living life on autopilot mode because that’s when you start going from always growing to always miserable. Spend as much time out of your comfort zone as you can.

#6 Be Adventurous

Some would argue that this involves challenging yourself but I think it’s different. What makes you interesting and unique? The adventures you take.

Is somebody going to be more interested in a guy that has never left his home state of Montana or the guy who has visited 10 different countries within the last two years?

The more exciting experiences you have, the more you have to talk about and the more you can help others with their situations.

Go get an adrenaline rush doing something like sky diving, bungee jumping, or white water rafting. Don’t be afraid to try that thing on the menu that nobody can pronounce. Especially if you’re with a big group of people.

You’ll have conversations to start and and everybody wants to be associated with the interesting guy they want to be or want to be with.  

#7 Always Be Ambitious But Never Go Too Far

A manly man’s career is important to him. Whether he has his own business or has a career that he’s trying to advance in, he should always be focused on working hard.

Strive for achievements in your career and get the rewards that come with the work but don’t mess with your values and relationships because of it. Men know that the happiness you get from money isn’t as much as what happens when you have a better relationship and your family is happy. 

Be ethical when doing business and dealing with your co-workers. A manly man never does something to hurt someone to advance on his own. The last thing you need is to screw over someone just to get a little bit of recognition because your supervisors will start to notice and make it even harder for you to be there.

#8 Be Confident Sexually

Be Confident Sexually

This is what you’ve been waiting for! A masculine man is confident in this area (sometimes too confident). They know they are attractive when they walk into a room so they don’t have to be a clown to get attention. Nobody really likes that guy anyway.

This is probably easier to say than to do for most guys. We all know women like confident guys but it’s hard for some more than others to always be beaming with confidence like that.

99% of the time, this gets better with experience. Some simple things to start with is walking taller, not slouching while sitting, and speaking with a deeper tone. All of these are looked at as being more confident.

Then just confidently approaching people and starting conversations. The first few are not going to go the way you want but that’s not a bad thing. You need to get those bad ones out of the way so you start getting to the good conversations.

If you ever learn about Pick Up Artists, when they’re teaching they tell the shy guys to just go up to the hottest girl in the bar (club, lounge, whatever) and just try to say anything. Get some kind of words out of your mouth. 99 out of 100 times the guy fails but it makes talking to the girls you actually can try with that much easier. 

#9 Improving Your Mental Health

This is probably the most important one on this list, not just for becoming more of a man but just having a good life. When I talk about this, I don’t mean about learning everything possible or trying to get healthy like some of these other tips.

Mental health means being emotionally and mentally stable and aware of yourself. Some people think that manly men are ones that get angry and just start throwing things at any moment’s notice. That’s completely false. A baby does that but not a man.

A strong and bold man can handle anything thrown at him. We all know that life has its ups and downs. Most of the time it has more downs than ups. 

To be manly, you have to understand that this is going to happen and not just sit down and complain about it. Men don’t whine when they get fired or something happens out of their control.

My biggest thing is always just focusing on what I can control. You have to be adaptable and always just react to what happens around you. Life is 10% what happens to you and then 90% how you react to it. A lot of this comes down to focusing on daily rituals that you can control.

However, if you do experience emotional states that you don’t like, and you’re not sure where they come from, consider talking to someone that can help. Seeing someone for this does not make you any less of a man. Your strengthening yourself to becoming the man you want to be.

If you get a lot of your happiness based off other people’s actions, this is where most people go wrong. Picture a balancing scale. Very volatile and moody people moods swing a lot when people have an interaction with them that they don’t like. On the opposite end, they could get very happy when they have a good interaction.

My line of thought is to try to keep most of that internal and focus on influencing your own happiness instead of letting others. Don’t care so much about what others think and this won’t affect you as much.

Mistakes that you CANNOT make

Before I leave you with these 9 tips on how to be more masculine, I want to give you some things not to do. Sometimes this could be even more important than the techniques above.

Don’t Get Fit Then Lose it.

The first tip we mentioned was to get fit quick. You don’t have to be bodybuilder status but at least do something daily to work towards your goal.

But most importantly, once you start seeing progress, don’t stop there. Enjoy your athleticism and pay attention to what you’re eating and how you’re taking care of your body.

Don’t Stop Treating Women with Respect

No matter if you’re single or taken, you should be treating all women like a gentleman would. Ask her how her day is and listen to her. Women have such great qualities and you don't want to go disrespecting them. 

Being a manly man in a relationship is a mix of standing up for yourself and giving your woman the respect she deserves.

Don’t Stop Being Unique

Don’t Stop Being Unique

One of the worst things with celebrities and role models is we try to model ourselves off them. Try to be no one else but yourself. Be Unique and put your own spin on everything you do.

Watch Ted Talks to make yourself better, learn a new skill, find interesting ways to make yourself different and you'll be one step ahead of the rest. 

You can get ideas from a couple people that you look up to but don’t ever copy them. It’ll come off like you’re not being genuine and that’s not very manly.

 How To Be A Manly Man

Becoming a masculine man means that you are going to start acting like you're in control of your own life. It's about taking a step forward and realizing that you're in charge of your own actions and every action makes a statement. 

Most of all, you must realize that you can become a manly man at any point in your life. It's just all about your mindset. It won't be easy but it's up to you if you want it bad enough. 

I hope you enjoyed this post. Leave a comment below and tell me which of these tips you're going to do today! 

If you liked this post, check out our post on how to Become An Alpha Male and really step your game up.