Being male and being a man are completely different. One you are born with and one you become. We can all think of someone who is male but definitely doesn’t act like a man. If you can’t think of someone, this person might be you…
If people doubt you when you tell them you are going to the gym or going to watch sports, this is probably you. If you’re in a room with 10 people and you’re considered last to open the pickle jar, this is probably you. If you get called cute a lot more than sexy or handsome, then this is probably you.
Falling into any of these categories probably wasn’t something you planned on doing but don’t worry. This post will help you turn into the manly man you want to become.
The good news is that all of these tips below can be used and actually aren’t too difficult. It’s more a mind change than anything else. So no matter what you look like, where you’re from, or who you are, you can harness your manliness today.
#1 Get Fit
I don’t think too many women are longing for the Arnold Schwarzenegger type bodies like they used to but they also aren’t going for the Bill Gates bodies at all.
One of the most primal instincts in women is admiring strength in their partners. The stronger and more athletic you are, the more manly you become.
If you’re not already in athletic shape, immediately start to exercise every day. Even something as simple as pushups and situps in your room daily will help.
When I’m working hard and don’t have time to go to the gym, I still put aside time to do 50 push-ups and 100 ab reps daily.
Now of course, lifting weights is the best and most efficient way to make a change with your body. So if you can, wake up early and get a gym membership or a weights set for your house and start strength training. Just be careful to use proper technique if you’re new. You don’t want to injure yourself with bad form.
#2 Sharpen Your Brain
One of the best things about the information age is that manly men doesn’t just include bodybuilders now. Smart men are in too!
When I say smart, you don’t have to be scientist smart at all. You just need to be open to the fact that learning is important past school. A manly man has an opinion that is based off facts and informed decisions.
Becoming smarter helps you be better in business or your career, with your relationships, and just getting better at life in general.
Find a new hobby and learn all about it. Study business and finance along with psychology.
Read a book every month, then get it down to every two weeks. Finding a new book is as easy and we have a whole post on the best self-help books here.
#3 Be Self-Reliant
Modern society programs us to be reliant on other things to feel good about ourselves. Think about the person you know that mood swings depending on how many likes on their Instagram post or if they look like that person on TV.
Becoming Self-Reliant means you rely on yourself to get you where you want to be.
- Accept help from others but do their own thinking on all decisions.
- Gain enough knowledge in an area in their life to help others and provide value.
- Learn how to generate positive emotions on their own instead of focusing on other things to do it for them.
We depend more on others than any other time on our planet and it makes us soft. Changing this goes a long way.
#4 Develop Relationships with Other Manly Men
Ironically, I’m going to jump from focusing on becoming independent to finding others like you.
One of the most important things we can do in our life is develop relationships. Tai Lopez actually calls this creating allies.
You ever hear the saying “You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” This works with everything. If you’re 5 closest guy friends don’t act manly, you probably won’t either.
I like to surround myself with people that I want to become. That’s why I create situations where I can meet more people (even as an introvert). Whether it’s traveling or networking at events, creating these relationships allows me to become a better person as well as grow my businesses.
#5 Always Challenge Yourself
Challenging ourselves is what makes humans better. Do you think it was a challenge to build the pyramids in Egypt or to build up a huge start-up like the ones we see today?
Of course it was. That’s why we’re all here. 90% of people spend their life just occupying space and not really enjoying their life. One of the main reasons is they don’t challenge themselves so they never grow.
Getting out of our comfort zone makes us tougher, smarter, and more experienced.
So go try something new like hiking or martial arts. Start meditating or reading a book for 15 minutes a day. Wake up earlier than you want to and work on that side hustle.
Basically you don’t want to be living life on autopilot mode because that’s when you start going from always growing to always miserable. Spend as much time out of your comfort zone as you can.
#6 Be Adventurous
Some would argue that this involves challenging yourself but I think it’s different. What makes you interesting and unique? The adventures you take.
Is somebody going to be more interested in a guy that has never left his home state of Montana or the guy who has visited 10 different countries within the last two years?
The more exciting experiences you have, the more you have to talk about and the more you can help others with their situations.
Go get an adrenaline rush doing something like sky diving, bungee jumping, or white water rafting. Don’t be afraid to try that thing on the menu that nobody can pronounce. Especially if you’re with a big group of people.
You’ll have conversations to start and and everybody wants to be associated with the interesting guy they want to be or want to be with.
#7 Always Be Ambitious But Never Go Too Far
A manly man’s career is important to him. Whether he has his own business or has a career that he’s trying to advance in, he should always be focused on working hard.
Strive for achievements in your career and get the rewards that come with the work but don’t mess with your values and relationships because of it. Men know that the happiness you get from money isn’t as much as what happens when you have a better relationship and your family is happy.
Be ethical when doing business and dealing with your co-workers. A manly man never does something to hurt someone to advance on his own. The last thing you need is to screw over someone just to get a little bit of recognition because your supervisors will start to notice and make it even harder for you to be there.
#8 Be Confident Sexually
This is what you’ve been waiting for! A masculine man is confident in this area (sometimes too confident). They know they are attractive when they walk into a room so they don’t have to be a clown to get attention. Nobody really likes that guy anyway.
This is probably easier to say than to do for most guys. We all know women like confident guys but it’s hard for some more than others to always be beaming with confidence like that.
99% of the time, this gets better with experience. Some simple things to start with is walking taller, not slouching while sitting, and speaking with a deeper tone. All of these are looked at as being more confident.
Then just confidently approaching people and starting conversations. The first few are not going to go the way you want but that’s not a bad thing. You need to get those bad ones out of the way so you start getting to the good conversations.
If you ever learn about Pick Up Artists, when they’re teaching they tell the shy guys to just go up to the hottest girl in the bar (club, lounge, whatever) and just try to say anything. Get some kind of words out of your mouth. 99 out of 100 times the guy fails but it makes talking to the girls you actually can try with that much easier.
#9 Improving Your Mental Health
This is probably the most important one on this list, not just for becoming more of a man but just having a good life. When I talk about this, I don’t mean about learning everything possible or trying to get healthy like some of these other tips.
Mental health means being emotionally and mentally stable and aware of yourself. Some people think that manly men are ones that get angry and just start throwing things at any moment’s notice. That’s completely false. A baby does that but not a man.
A strong and bold man can handle anything thrown at him. We all know that life has its ups and downs. Most of the time it has more downs than ups.
To be manly, you have to understand that this is going to happen and not just sit down and complain about it. Men don’t whine when they get fired or something happens out of their control.
My biggest thing is always just focusing on what I can control. You have to be adaptable and always just react to what happens around you. Life is 10% what happens to you and then 90% how you react to it. A lot of this comes down to focusing on daily rituals that you can control.
However, if you do experience emotional states that you don’t like, and you’re not sure where they come from, consider talking to someone that can help. Seeing someone for this does not make you any less of a man. Your strengthening yourself to becoming the man you want to be.
If you get a lot of your happiness based off other people’s actions, this is where most people go wrong. Picture a balancing scale. Very volatile and moody people moods swing a lot when people have an interaction with them that they don’t like. On the opposite end, they could get very happy when they have a good interaction.
My line of thought is to try to keep most of that internal and focus on influencing your own happiness instead of letting others. Don’t care so much about what others think and this won’t affect you as much.
Mistakes that you CANNOT make
Before I leave you with these 9 tips on how to be more masculine, I want to give you some things not to do. Sometimes this could be even more important than the techniques above.
Don’t Get Fit Then Lose it.
The first tip we mentioned was to get fit quick. You don’t have to be bodybuilder status but at least do something daily to work towards your goal.
But most importantly, once you start seeing progress, don’t stop there. Enjoy your athleticism and pay attention to what you’re eating and how you’re taking care of your body.
Don’t Stop Treating Women with Respect
No matter if you’re single or taken, you should be treating all women like a gentleman would. Ask her how her day is and listen to her. Women have such great qualities and you don't want to go disrespecting them.
Being a manly man in a relationship is a mix of standing up for yourself and giving your woman the respect she deserves.
Don’t Stop Being Unique
One of the worst things with celebrities and role models is we try to model ourselves off them. Try to be no one else but yourself. Be Unique and put your own spin on everything you do.
Watch Ted Talks to make yourself better, learn a new skill, find interesting ways to make yourself different and you'll be one step ahead of the rest.
You can get ideas from a couple people that you look up to but don’t ever copy them. It’ll come off like you’re not being genuine and that’s not very manly.
How To Be A Manly Man
Becoming a masculine man means that you are going to start acting like you're in control of your own life. It's about taking a step forward and realizing that you're in charge of your own actions and every action makes a statement.
Most of all, you must realize that you can become a manly man at any point in your life. It's just all about your mindset. It won't be easy but it's up to you if you want it bad enough.
I hope you enjoyed this post. Leave a comment below and tell me which of these tips you're going to do today!
If you liked this post, check out our post on how to Become An Alpha Male and really step your game up.